Friday, March 17, 2006

Wife or Mom

So I've never done this before. I've never really let people this far into my life, but it should be ok, right? The only people who will care are people who care about me, right? Sometimes we often struggle with who that really is.

I'm a mom of 4 kids and a wife of 1 big kid. I sometimes struggle with what title should come first, wife or mom. Most of the time I struggle with what kid I should take care of first. What needs should come first, their needs or my sanity. I have a 6 yr old stepdaughter who for some reason can never stay out of trouble, a 3 yr old son who cannot grasp that you have to do the number 2's on the potty not in your pants and who thinks that whining is a pass time, a 2 year old son potty training who I know is smart enough to do it, and a 7 wk old baby girl who really doesn't have too much to say most of the time until I want to do something like this. Needless to say right now I'm at the end of my rope grasping for a way to climb higher. Is it even possible with 1 screaming her head off and the 2 boys fighting like their aren't enough toys to go around? Maybe this blog will help me release some frustrations and calm down. My husband is a great Christian man who does everything to make sure that we are taken care of, but sometimes I wonder if I'm doing enough to take care of everybody. He doesn't complain but maybe underneath I'm not doing enough.

Who knows what should come first, Wife or Mother?


Kendra said...

Oh, wow... I identify with you on everything you wrote. We have so much in common. Thank you for letting me into your life like this.

Jerry DePoy Jr. said...

I identify so much too!
Except I'm not a wife
and I don't have five kids.

But besides that, we're on the same page...

Seriously though, writing is a phenomenal release! Keep it up, you're good at it!

- Jerry

Erin said...

I also relate to everything you wrote. I think as hard (impossible) as it is we should try to be ourselves first and then these other two roles, but of course that's never how it works out. I believe we should love God, ourselves, our husbands, and our children in that order. But of the demands of our screaming children and our nagging husbands always seem to overrule our time with God and ourselves. I think maybe this is just another symptom of the fall???!!! Anyway, sorry this is so long, I think I needed to vent...or something. Talk to you later.

Jer & Liz Nyenhuis said...

Well,needless to say, I can't relate, but I hope to someday. I must say, though, that what I have seen, you are a wonderful mother and wife. Your kids obviously love you, as does your husband. (And I know they aren't going hungry.) :) If you need some "quiet time", just give me a call.